To you, dear Earth Being, I wish that you will always recognize and show respect for the distance and closeness desired between you and your fellow human being. It is essential that you recognize and respect distance and closeness between you and the other gender. The space between distance and closeness of the two genders is filled with tense energy, at first unknown and foreign to both men and women. Tension arises first through a need for self-restraint, because closeness and distance are not correctly understood and wrongly evaluated. Therefore, from a woman's point of view it may seem that the man is holding back at the moment she experiences a great need for contact. On the other hand, the man may want to be intimate when the woman wishes to be left alone. And this occurs quickly and unexpectedly so that neither can be supportive of the other, and therefore wrongly associates the desire for closeness or distance as a measure of love. In reality, closeness and distance are not to be viewed as components of love, but as the result of a personal need by every human being to maintain a balance in partnership, work and everyday events. A balance of closeness and distance is needed for a harmonious relationship between man and woman. The requirement for such a harmonious relationship is a peaceful- and loving-understanding of one another, including personal restraint and freedom of choice granted to the other partner. A tolerant attitude thus leads to personal responsibility on one hand and freedom of choice on the other.
To this end, we are not to consider precedent by former generations. Not much can be learned from olden days when women were prevented from making decisions about their own life, behavior, thoughts and feelings, because our ancestors lived by different standards. This, however, does not guarantee that women today are treated with the respect and privilege accorded to them, even afforded by law, by all nations, families and in partnerships. The question then remains about which standards are being upheld today.
A good balance between individuals, especially in regard to partnership, requires a reasonable and fair practice of distance and closeness. In this regard it is important to adhere to rules of understanding and consideration. It is therefore important that communication be open and to explain one's current state and need for distance or intimacy in order to maintain one's personal balance, peace and respite, in order to keep a harmonious relationship between the partners. It can be painful, even frustrating, to be left alone at the very time you are longing to be held. And it can seem to be unpleasant, mean, even cruel, if you wish to be alone this moment or for the next two hours, and your need is not respected. And if there is no such understanding between you and your partner, that means that there is a lack of communication between him/her and you, because how should the other person know what is going on in your life and what your personal needs are for closeness or distance without a proper understanding between you both. Of course, a certain consideration may be achieved through intuition, but this can hardly be expected to occur at the present level of homo sapiens' underdeveloped consciousness. What is needed is spoken intelligent communication.
Dear Earth Human Being, be aware that a relationship between human beings cannot be freely accomplished in a peaceful, loving, harmonious and idyllic manner if you do not commit to togetherness and clear communication. Nothing can be gained when human values are not upheld. That means that you must rely on your own positive values and that you treat the other person according to his/her innermost self and to what he/she might outwardly evolve into being, if he/she really tries to be a human being. The same applies to you from his/her side, because the proper balance of freedom, peace, understanding and unity, between you and the other person, can only be achieved through mutual respect.
Realize, human being of the Earth, that you are improving your life and that of others, when you are granting everyone the space and tolerance they require, and treat them fairly through the use of communication in the pursuit of unity. Be aware, however, that not everything you desire for yourself and from others can be attained, even though you and they occasionally believe to be entitled to it. Neither you nor anyone else can ever bargain for true love, as it emerges in a sympathetic union. True love, is and remains, a constant and unifying treasure that is priceless and cannot be bought. True love can only be created by you at your innermost core and this love cannot be sold, it can only be bestowed as a gift to your partner in the hope that it may also stir similar feelings in him/her and that he/she too, may find and generate pure love, so that something miraculous is being created.
Source: The Meaning of Love
True Love – A Unifying Might
In the same degree to which the human being begins to grasp life, to understand it and really to live, he or she will encounter all its great things in greater proximity.
However, true love thereby represents a development to which the human being is not equal - without the deepest cognitions and a virtuous, worthy character and without a good personality.
True love, namely, surpasses all love which is thought-feeling generated, which, as a rule, only exhausts itself in degenerated emotions.
If, however, the human being holds out, and accepts all the efforts and burdens associated with the time of teaching and creating, which true love - determined by spiritual-fine-sensitive feeling[1] - takes, instead of losing himself or herself in all of that which is easy and insignificant, and in false and foolish being-in-love, behind which he or she hides from the truthful weight of true love and from the actual seriousness of life, then he or she will not only gain relief and progress, as well as significant self-knowledge and self-realisation, rather he or she will also gain deep, true love determined by spiritual-fine-sensitive feeling - which mocks all love generated by thoughts and feelings, and, thereby, love which is laden with emotions.
True love lasts for a lifetime and beyond, because true love withstands death and is also still perceptible for the most distant descendant, because it is a significant, positive-neutral and unifying might, the nature of which is eternal and all-great-timely.
spiritual-fine-sensitive feeling: (in other words, the spiritual counterpart to the material feeling) corresponds to the German word “Empfindung” which is traditionally translated as, a. (sinnliche Wahrnehmung) sensation; sensory perception; b. (Gefühl) feeling; emotion
Source: http://www.futureofmankind.co.uk/Billy_Meier/A_Little_Bit_Of_Knowledge,_Sense_And_Wisdom_(book)
The Innermost Self
If the life is viewed and considered in all its situations and variations, then it can be recognized that life means a constant struggle, a continuous careful study of one's own innermost (self) and outer self. The innermost self, which exists in the deepest consciousness, reflects the values of the creational spirit, but in opposition to that, the human being forms the outer self, the outer personality, according to his/her own views and understandings, by means of his/her thoughts and feelings and will. And, as a rule, this outer self, this outer personality, which is also released outwardly in the environment as one's conduct, completely contradicts the innermost self which has a creationally-given nature.
In the constant argument between the two forms of self, other factors continually attempt to interfere, which overlayingly and superficially fight again and again to misguidingly shove themselves above the current occurrences of self-struggle. However, the innermost self nonetheless incessantly struggles through again and again, and again and again always drowns out and covers over the outer self, which is foreign to Creation and is created by the human being himself/herself. It is always there, constantly ready to break through the accumulated, tangled confusion of the outer personality in order to allow the human being's thinking and feeling to assiduously flourish and be effective, in accordance with the innermost creational self. This may very often only happen allusively, but it also proves its existence through the human becoming contemplative and contemplating the most varied things, events and situations as well as his/her behavior and virtues, and so forth – even if that often only happens for extremely short periods, without great effect, and calls forth no noteworthy change of the external self, the external personality. Nonetheless, the innermost self constantly has the power to bring at least a vague smile to the human being's facial features, even if this is only brief and barely noticeable. However, this fine smile testifies that the innermost, the spiritual, the creational self, without doubt stands above everything; invulnerable, exalted and wise, quite in contrast to the outer self, the outer personality, which is positioned outwardly for show and through which the human abases himself/herself and presses himself/herself into the dust.
The human being's innermost, spiritual-creational self is his/her most precious possession, the most valuable pearl of his/her life, the greatest of all treasures concealed in him/her and the greatest value that he/she carries around with himself/herself. His/her innermost self, his/her true self, which has a creational nature, is the true stone of wisdom. It does not consist of silver, gold or precious stone, rather, it consists of creational energy and true creational love – constantly ready to penetrate the human being's deepest consciousness and also his/her external consciousness, so that he/she listens to it and orientates himself/herself accordingly, in order to live in the creational-natural sense, to be progressive and to fulfil his/her life according to the laws and recommendations. But the human being almost never listens to the call of the innermost spiritual-creational self and only seldom feels its pulsating impulses which call upon him/her to really live, to be human, to create knowledge, true love and wisdom, and to be evolutive.
The true innermost, spiritual-creational self, is the eternal light, the radiating shine of the all-great-time – in all the darkness and gloominess which surrounds the human being in his/her life led in a self-willed form. The true, innermost self wants to make the human being into a king and emperor over himself/herself – but it is this human being who, in irrationality and imperiousness, counteracts and disgracefully misuses and abuses the true, innermost self, because he/she frantically seeks his/her external self-realization, and the realization of his/her external personality, outside of all the creational-natural values of his/her innermost self. But it is nonetheless always quite close to the human being – in every single moment. It must only be recognized, understood and utilized.
Only the human being's union with his/her innermost spiritual-creational self, makes him/her fertile in the regard that he/she recognizes himself/herself in his/her deepest depths of his/her consciousness, and from that can create a conscious, healthy and positive self-realization. And if he/she manages to do that, then he/she is able to bring everything imaginable to fruition which is anchored in his/her capabilities and possibilities. But for millennia, the human being in general, and the great majority of his/her kind, has not been striving especially for these high values, for which reason, for millennia, it has always only been individuals who have connected with their innermost selves, and thereby gained great cognitions by means of which they became wise, and produced many kinds of progress for all human beings; consequently they were the true cause for the entire further development in regard to love, truth, wisdom, harmony, knowledge, peace and freedom, even when all these values were always trampled under foot again and again by elements who were criminals against humanity, and they will also still be further trampled in the new age. However, it was nevertheless the impulses of the human being's innermost, true, spiritual-creational self from which the motivation was formed, by means of which the human being developed. And it was these impulsive motivations of the innermost self from which all progress of every kind came forth, because by penetrating into the deepest layers of the human being's consciousness and then into his/her open consciousness, into his/her personality and into his/her thinking and contemplation, they formed not only him/her, rather also the entire terrestrial environment and all sciences which exist. The impulses of the innermost self, from which also the power of knowledge and of contemplation as well as the creation of ideas comes forth, transformed everything via the material consciousness and thereby, if they were heeded, always again and again created new and better inner and outer conditions. However, that only came about because of exceptions, because always only a few turned to the innermost values and behaved and developed accordingly, while the majority of the mass of humanity did not care about it, and still even today it does not; consequently it will also only ever be a few in the future who pay heed to the innermost self. The fact is that in most human beings the conscious sense for the innermost self and its immeasurable values, has wasted away and has disappeared. But that cannot continue to be accepted, because the future does not stand still and it demands constant progress. Therefore the human being in the new age, today and tomorrow and in all of the future, will have to gradually move to turn around, whether he/she likes it or not, because this is absolutely necessary for the conscious evolution.
The human being must learn again to return to his/her deepest, innermost values and imperishable treasures, for which he/she has searched for a very, very long time, only in his/her external personality, in his/her external self and also beyond this in the pure material world. As a result of this wrong attitude, the correct measure of life and the presence of his/her innermost self were lost to him/her, therefore he/she now must again learn to find these things and use them in order to be able to equalize all extremes, and to finally be again able to advance to that which is essential and actually valuable, and to recognize the true sense of the life, which lies in the conscious evolution. Thereby, it is to be wished for that all those who look very much further than the average human being and who consciously allow themselves to be led and guided by their innermost self, the spiritual-creational power, will be acknowledged and honorably respected in dignity by those fellow human beings, who in this regard are still uneducated and still misguidedly stand in opposition to the whole thing, and those who are straggling far behind. However, the number of all those who still err, who are still unknowing or who doubtingly stand in opposition to everything, and so forth, is very great. But they are all human beings who must learn, recognize and evolve even if they err and err again and again. However, the question is, how much irrationality, confusion and bewilderment are still required before even the very last human being on the Earth finally has grasped essentially where life's way and the evolutionary way ought to lead, and where these actually do lead. And to go both these ways is not actually easy, because the entire life and the evolving, means struggle, even in the love, truth, wisdom and harmony and even so in the freedom and joy as well as in the peace and in the feelings for others and in being human in the true sense, and so forth.
As a human being, one must never forget the sense of the life and never the existence of the innermost self. Only in one situation – namely when one is overcome by current events or if one is occupied with things that are established outside of the high values of the sense of life and of the innermost self – may one sometimes briefly give oneself over to forgetfulness. So, it does not mean that one must constantly only dedicate oneself to the evolution, rather that one has the freedom to occupy oneself also with different, and purely worldly, things. Yet one ought to always be mindful of this: that everything worldly is only a concurrent matter in the happenings of the sense of life and thereby in the happenings of the evolution – a matter which is indeed necessary, but which ought never to be overvalued. If one lives correctly, the life consists of a fascination about the eternal becoming and passing, and of the constant up and down and back and forth of all necessary things and motions, which call forth transformations and which are required for the entire life and evolution, as well as for the everyday life of the human being. Yet, for the human being, along with the material existence, exists the existence of the spiritual-creational, which is the actual and true life. Therefore, for him/her, the single hope is that which is inescapable, and the higher, joyous Zeal of going over into the next highest level, where, however, all instruction and all learning continue. Therefore, the human being must always – and even right here and now, in this moment – make the effort to do his/her duty.
If one views and considers all the wonders of nature which have come forth from the creational spirit and its energy, then for a few fleeting moments one captures the power and beauty of the creational spirit, the fine-spiritual-perception of which one, as a human being, can sometimes capture in certain moments. To that end, however, the elevated, easy manner of living this relaxed, uncramped way, which is only characteristic of a few human beings, is an urgent and unforgoable prerequisite.
Source: http://www.futureofmankind.co.uk/Billy_Meier/A_Little_Bit_Of_Knowledge,_Sense_And_Wisdom_(book)